The Virtue of Being a “Dan”

Reflecting on Virtue 

Throughout the year, I will likely pepper this virtue reflection with experiences I encountered during my recent pilgrimage along the Camino de Santiago. It is a gift for me to process this graced time, when I witnessed so much virtue lived out. It manifests how virtue is best understood: as what it “looks like” and “sounds like” to live as a Christian. One particular experience stood out and serves as a powerful illustration of what it means to live out these virtues: the concept of the “Dan.” 

The Role of the “Dan” 

During our daily hikes, one of the pilgrims suggested we designate a “Dan” each day. Intrigued, we learned that the Tribe of Dan was one of the twelve tribes of Israel, known for their role in the desert wanderings. They were tasked with shepherding those who fell behind, ensuring that no one was left alone and that the group moved forward in unity. In our pilgrimage, a volunteer would step into the role of “Dan,” intentionally walking at a slower pace, providing companionship, and fostering a spirit of connection and empathy among us. This ordinary kindness and courtesy gave us a sense of unity and the assurance of security and peace along the path as we knew someone “had our back.”  This person standing watch and keeping us all together provided a sense of community thereby strengthening us for the journey ahead.   

The Joy of Courtesy 

This simple act of courtesy became a daily source of joy and satisfaction for many pilgrims. Those who took on the role of “Dan” reported feeling a deep sense of fulfillment as they supported their fellow travelers, reminding us that virtue is not just an abstract idea but a lived experience. It is courtesy in action, a tangible expression of care for one another. 

Deeper Significance 

The deeper significance of being a “Dan” resonates with the teachings of our faith. Sunday’s gospel certainly reminded us that the “last shall be first” as we are all called to make ourselves last from time to time.  To serve as a courteous “Dan” one must be willing to offer a gift of self and forgo one’s own ambitions and goals as they enter into this willing act of service. James 3:16 reminds us of the consequences of focusing too much on ourselves. Our selfless “Dan”, tending to the more vulnerable on our walk, was a powerful source of companionship and encouragement, especially when the journey became difficult. And from a character standpoint, this person required both gentleness and strength and a capacity to adapt to whatever the need or circumstance. 

Living the “Dan” Spirit 

We all know individuals in our lives who embody this “Dan” spirit, attuned to the needs of others. Whether it’s preparing a meal for someone who is ill, offering a ride, assisting with household chores, or simply providing a listening ear, these acts reflect a commitment to the well-being of those around us. An African proverb captures this beautifully: “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” 

Conclusion: Whose Back Do You Have? 

As we reflect on our own lives, we can ask ourselves: whose back do we have? How can we embody the courteous gift of ourselves—our time, patience, and strength—to shepherd others along their journeys? Perhaps in your families, classrooms, or school, you can ask for a “Dan” to live the virtue of courtesy by paying attention to the needs of others and finding joy in being last.